Improve Your Life #15: Let It Go
You don’t have to be right all the time. You don’t have to win every fight. You don’t have to change lanes in front of that car. Many of us tend to be competitive even when there’s no competition and the results do not matter. Make a decision that you will give in and let go in case of mundane everyday matters. This is not defeat or losing, you are making a decision to let the other person have it. You will avoid a lot of stress and frustration.
Try losing arguments. Point out the holes in your argumentation but don’t flip to the opposing argument. Just state your case and point out the holes or the aspects the other side has missed. Lay back and watch the other person fry their brains trying to figure out what you are doing. If you know for a fact that the average distance to the sun is 92.96 million miles and they say its 149 million miles don’t argue with that. Just say you are not sure and have to check your facts.
Defer to others. Let people pass you in lines. Let that car make the turn even if you have the right of way (in this case you have to make sure you don’t block others who have the right of way). Let other go before you. This will help you slow down and be less worried about the result.
Volunteer to do the thing nobody wants to do. Don’t wait to be the one to draw the shortest straw. Step up and take the job as an added bonus it will build your willpower.
Apologize! It doesn’t matter that you are right. If they are upset with you then in their eyes you are to blame. Say that you are sorry about what happened and ask what you can do to fix the situation. You can fight to be right or just defer and try to fix the situation.
One thing I’ve learned about life is that if you really let go, it’s just a joy ride. ~~Ricky Williams
But letting go is not only about other people. You may want to beat your previous results in exercising. Pumping more iron, running more and faster miles. This is commendable but from time to time you have to let go. If that ripped triathlete passes you on the track you don’t have to keep up. Or this may relate to your work. If you have set a goal to close 10 deals every week it may feel like a failure to do less. But give yourself a break every once in a while and take it easy.
Deciding to let it go is not a weakness. As long as it is a decision and not permanent it’s a break. In many cases like, deferring to others, taking the job nobody else wants to do, apologizing, it is a strength. It’s a strength then and it will build your character for the future. You can let it go but don’t give up.
Remember that this is a decision and you don’t use that to justify failure. Be honest with yourself and this will grow you.
Now I will go out and run 7 miles with the slowest time in a month. Go ahead and lose some arguments.
Here’s a warning, use your head to decide when it’s a right time to let go. If you are hanging on a cliff by your fingernails then you might want to give it your all.