Want more from your career and life? [SLIDES]
Want more from your career and life? Live by this single sentence
Be generous and expert, trustworthy and clear, open-minded and adaptable, presistent and present.
Being generous means helping others. Become a mentor, teach others the skills that have made you successful. Perform random acts of kindness. Train yourself to be calm and kind.
Understand that everyone is carrying the load they can. Even those who you think are slackers. Find out if you can do anything to lessen the load or make them stronger. For example, if you know a more effective way of doing something, then share that knowledge.
By lessening their load, you give them time to enjoy life more or be more productive. Your gift will help them help others in turn.
Real generosity toward the future lies in giving all to the present. ~ Albert Camus
Give it your all. Every time! Work like you know that your results will be judged. But do it every day, even if there’s no one evaluating your results. Learn from every mistake and make an effort to improve every day. Become the best possible version of yourself in a given field.
You can learn even better by teaching others. Use the Feynman technique to learn new things and share what you have learned with your peers.
Promise is a strong word, use it sparingly. Always do what you have promised. Don’t promise the things that you can’t deliver. You can always promise to give it your best effort and then do everything you can.
Behave in a way that you would like everybody else to behave. Be the rock your companions can depend on. When your companions have problems, stand strong to deflect the storm while they collect themselves and recover.
Always speak your mind. Tell the truth and do not obfuscate your message to gain favor. Simplify your language. Don’t use big words where simple words will do the trick. If you don’t understand something say so. You might learn something.
Every person you meet will have something to teach you. Everyone has a story that’s worth listening. It doesn’t matter how expert you are there’s always something more to learn and experience. In important matters make an effort to argue the other side. You might find something that you haven’t seen before. Learn about how detaching yourself from your view will give you the perspective you do not have.
Be curious! Find out how things work, why people act the way they do. Seek understanding, so that you can see the connections and create new ideas.
Without an open-minded mind, you can never be a great success. ~ Martha Stewart
Plan for the worst and hope for the best. Be prepared and flexible. Whatever happens, evaluate the situation and use your head to find the best solution that helps you and the ones around you.
Life is in constant motion and the tools you used yesterday may need tweaking today. Tomorrow you may need a completely new toolset. Even if you have the right tools, there may be ways to improve them. When did you last sharpen your saw?
As Winston Churchill said: Never ever give up. In nothing! Not in the small things and definitely not in important matters. Sweat the small stuff, pay attention to detail then you move towards the bigger goals. The winners are those that didn’t give up. Everything that has value needs work. The more value you want, the more work you need to put in.
Grind, become the person who masters boring. Get through the long patches of tedious tasks and emerge victoriously. Be relentless, be the one who will not stop until you reach your goal.
Be the person who plans 5, 10 or even 20 years ahead. You can achieve almost anything in 10 to 20 years. There are not many things that can stand against the steady application of human effort.
Remember that inconsistency is the main obstacle to your success.
Energy and persistence conquer all things. ~ Benjamin Franklin
Be mindful of other people and the events around you. Turn off notifications. Put away your phone when you are talking with people. Focus on the things at hand and do not multi-task. Take in all the details as they happen.
Don’t be disrespectful. People know when you are not paying attention. Maybe you are exhausted? Let them know it’s not a good time. Maybe you don’t have the time? If you don’t want to get involved, let people know and walk away. If you decide to engage, give it your full attention.
Mindful response to unexpected events
Create a habit that when something unexpected happens, react with these mental steps:
Surprised – Hmmm, interesting why did this happen. Why did that person do that peculiar thing? In many cases, surprise is a natural emotion to weird events. However, the key is to replace anger with surprise. If you can deflect anger, then you have much more brainpower to deal with the situation.
Interest – So, why did this thing happen? Why did that person act in this manner? Focus on what happened, why it happened, and how you can improve the situation. When you are genuinely interested in the event, then you are much more likely to come up with creative solutions.
Learn – After the situation is resolved. Recall the sequence of events and reflect on what happened. Only minute or two of thinking it through will make help you deal better with similar situations in the future.
Of course, there are emergencies when people may be in clear danger. Suspend your mindfulness exercise and act in a way to minimize potential harm.
Train your mindfulness in the less critical situations, so that you would be calm and composed when real emergencies come up.
How to be that person who lives by these rules?
Create a routine that you can follow. Routine and discipline are the key factors in getting the results you want.
But what if I don’t have any discipline?
Start small! The first thing is to improve your willpower. You may have almost none now, but you can build it like a muscle. Do something every day that increases your self-control and willpower. For example:
- Start brushing your teeth with the weaker hand
- Do one pushup every morning
- Make your bed when you wake up
Don’t do them all at once. Start with one, add the next one in two or four weeks. Start to incorporate your work into willpower exercises. Whenever you have to do something that you don’t want to do, think about it as a willpower exercise.
The superior man is the providence of the inferior. He is eyes for the blind, strength for the weak, and a shield for the defenseless. He stands erect by bending above the fallen. He rises by lifting others. ~ Robert G. Ingersoll
When your behavior becomes a habit, then you have to exert less willpower to complete these actions. Some research shows that building a habit takes more than 2 months. The 21-day habit building is a myth.
If you really want a habit to stick then complete a 90-day or even longer challenge. For my daily writing habit to stick it took almost half a year.
It’s totally worth it. If you can do important tasks automatically, you will be on your way to a better life.