Why You Should Pick Your Own Path [VIDEO]

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Are you doing what you want to do?

Are you going in the direction you want to go?

Are you making decisions about where your life is going?

There are several possible answers to these questions. You may not be doing what you want to do, but you are moving in the direction of getting there. If you are not moving in the direction you want to be, then the question is, are you in charge of where you are going.

Over the last year, I have written about what you can do to improve your life. Some of these you can do even if you are in solitary confinement. For the others, you need to assume control of your life.

Do you have a job that is not all you want it to be?

Are you in a relationship that might be better dissolved?

Are you held back by people or circumstances that no longer match your goals?

It may well be that some parts of your life are in perfect order, moving along in the right direction and giving you a lot of satisfaction. However, there might be parts of your life, personal or professional, where you feel trapped.

You have the power to change that.

Removing annoying things from your life may improve your situation more than adding positive aspects.

Sell your crap. Pay your debt. Do what you love. Adam Baker

In this TED video is one way you can go:

Inspiring TEDxAsheville presentation by Adam Baker about what freedom means to you and how most of us opt for the default. In 2008, after the birth of his first child, Baker and his wife decided to sell everything they owned, pay off their consumer debt, and spend a year traveling abroad as a family. They began sharing their journey in early 2009 on the blog Man vs. Debt, now 15,000 subscribers strong. In sharing their ups and downs in the areas of personal finance, consumerism, clutter, travel, minimalism, and passionate entrepreneurship, they realized they aren’t alone in a desire to explore and grow.

You can make a decision and pick your path

Think about your goals in life and where you want to go:

  • career,
  • relationships,
  • personal growth.

To help you get a better idea of where to go and what is your current potential, make a list of your interests. But don’t let your present stop you. If you have always wanted to do something, then make a decision and learn something new and exciting.

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When you consider your current situation, think about what would you do differently if you knew then what you know now. For example, in business, you may have a client you no longer want to have. If you only knew then, that this is a true client from hell, you would have never signed them up. Make a decision, cut them loose.

Pick your own path!

Next step: Analyze your life. Cover all the fun areas so that you can keep them. Then make sure you don’t miss anything that you want to change. Finally, start with the smallest annoying thing you can eliminate from your life.

Emerson pick your own path quote

Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Eliminate the negative

I once briefly dated a girl who told me that at her own wedding she was thinking about what she was doing there. There was so much social pressure and possible losing face involved that she went along with it. Needless to say that the marriage didn’t last long.

Don’t be that girl!

You may not have a situation that’s so extreme, but in many cases, we just tag along, not wanting to make a fuss.

Stop it!

Eliminate the negative and speak up for yourself.

Consistency: Step by step, from smaller items to larger, remove the negative experiences from your life.

Make a decision

You may feel that you are stuck, and you can’t change the situation. Start building an escape route on the side. Cut your time wasters, stop watching TV, and use that time to find new ways to make money, attend new social circles, get a hobby, or find other ways to start building your new life. It may take time but be consistent, and you will get there.

Being stuck in a situation that needs action to be unstuck. That action requires a decision that may be really hard to make. But if you are going to make that decision, then the right time is sooner than later.

Tip: It’s all up to you! Yesterday was the best time, but you have to do it now.

Ask for what you want

What’s the worst that can happen?

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The worst-case scenario is the main question in any situation and decision. If the answer is something you can live with, then go ahead, do it. If the worst is really bad, potential loss of all savings and income, ending up in a homeless shelter, then you need to find someone to help you.

In some relationships, the worst can mean physical harm. That is, even more, the reason to act now.

Do not let other people and circumstances destroy you. Get the negative stuff out of your life. Replace them with positive goals and friends that support you. In many cases, you just have to ask for what you want, and you will get it.

Next step: Whenever possible, ask your friends and family to help you with the change.

ray dalio worst case scenario

Ray Dalio Principles: Plan for the worst-case scenario to make it as good as possible.

Plan for the worst and create an emergency fund.

Pick Your Own Path!

In any case, starting on the new path is usually the hardest thing, so act now. To test your new path, take small steps. Do something every day that will move you closer to where you want to be. Make it a 30-day challenge and see what happens if you keep at it for a whole month, no excuses.

Experimenting means you need to get more control and flexibility in your life. To do that, understand what’s really happening and why you want something to change. Make the initial plan and contingency to be flexible. Every plan will change as soon as you start implementing it, so accept whatever comes, give it your best and improvise.

Take responsibility.

You are in charge.

If everything is not working out as planned, don’t give up, learn from experience, and repeat.

Now, what do you really want in life? Pick your path.

Act now: Take the first step!

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Priit Kallas

Founder of FixWillpower.com. I created FixWillpower to help you reach your goals. I have struggled my entire life to be consistent and avoid procrastination. The goal is to have a good life, do the things you love and get your results with minimum effort. FixWillpower website is about how I create motivation and productivity in my life. I write about the tools and techniques, best books, scientific research, and everything else that helps you move faster and stay on track. Minimum effort doesn’t mean slacking off. Minimum effort is about effectiveness and productivity. If there is a way to reach a goal in a shorter time or with less exertion, then you should use that. I will help you be smarter and reach goals faster. About FixWillpower

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  1. James Call says:

    Thanks for the post! I want to add that research shows that setting optimistic plans makes you a happier person. Make big and optimistic plans but as Ray Dalio said understand what’s the worst that can happen and make it as good as possible.

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