Are you doing what you want to do?
Are you going in the direction you want to go?
Are you making decisions about where your life is going?
There are several answers to these questions. You may not be doing what you want to do, but you are moving in the right direction. If you are not moving in the direction you want to be, then the question is, are you in charge of where you are going.
Over the last year, I have written about what you can do to improve your life. Some of these you can do, even if you are in solitary confinement. For the others, you need to assume control of your life.
Do you have a job that is not all you want it to be?
Are you in a relationship that might be better dissolved?
Are you held back by people or circumstances that no longer match your goals?
It may well be that some parts of your life are in perfect order, moving in the right direction and giving you a lot of satisfaction. However, there might be parts of your life, personal or professional, where you feel trapped.
You have the power to change that.
Removing annoying things from your life may improve your situation more than adding positive aspects.
Sell your crap. Pay your debt. Do what you love. Adam Baker
In this TED video is one way you can go:
Inspiring TEDxAsheville presentation by Adam Baker about what freedom means to you and how most of us opt for the default.
In 2008, after the birth of his first child, Baker and his wife decided to sell everything they owned, pay off their consumer debt, and spend a year traveling abroad as a family.
They began sharing their journey in early 2009 on the blog Man vs. Debt, now 15,000 subscribers strong. In sharing their ups and downs in the areas of personal finance, consumerism, clutter, travel, minimalism, and passionate entrepreneurship, they realized they aren’t alone in a desire to explore and grow.
You can make a decision and pick your path
Think about your goals in life and where you want to go:
- personal growth.
To help you get a better idea of where to go and what is your current potential, make a list of your interests. But don’t let your present stop you. If you have always wanted to do something, then make a decision and learn something new and exciting.
When you consider your current situation, think about what would you do differently if you knew then what you know now.
For example, in business, you may have a client you no longer want to have. If you only knew then, that this is a true client from hell, you would have never signed them up. Make a decision, cut them loose.
Pick your own path!
Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Eliminate the negative
I once briefly dated a girl who told me that at her own wedding she was thinking about what she was doing there.
It was not a case of cold feed at the last moment.
There was so much social pressure and possible losing face involved that she went along with it. Needless to say that the marriage didn’t last long.
Don’t be that girl!
You may not have a situation that’s so extreme, but most times, we just tag along, not wanting to make a fuss.
Eliminate the negative and speak up for yourself.
Make a decision!
You may feel that you are stuck, and you can’t change the situation. Start building an escape route on the side.
It will take time, be consistent, and you will get there.
Being stuck in a situation that needs action to be unstuck. That action requires a decision that may be really hard to make. But if you are going to make that decision, then the right time is sooner than later.
Ask for what you want
What’s the worst that can happen?
The worst-case scenario is the main question in any situation and decision. If the answer is something you can live with, then go ahead, do it. If the worst is really bad, potential loss of all savings and income, ending up in a homeless shelter, then you need to find someone to help you.
In some relationships, the worst can mean physical harm. That is, even more, the reason to act now.
Do not let other people and circumstances destroy you. Get the negative stuff out of your life. Replace them with positive goals and friends that support you. In many cases, you just have to ask for what you want, and you will get it.
Ray Dalio Principles: Plan for the worst-case scenario to make it as good as possible.
Plan for the worst and create an emergency fund.
Pick Your Own Path!
In any case, starting on the new path is usually the hardest thing, so act now. To test your new path, take small steps. Do something every day that will move you closer to where you want to be. Make it a 30-day challenge and see what happens if you keep at it for a whole month, no excuses.
Experimenting means you need to get more control and flexibility in your life. To do that, understand what’s really happening, and why you want something to change. Make the initial plan and contingency to be flexible. Every plan will change as soon as you start implementing it, so accept whatever comes, give it your best, and improvise.
You are in charge.
If everything is not working out as planned, don’t give up, learn from experience, and repeat.
Now, what do you really want in life? Pick your path.
Do you want to be strong to pick your path? Willpower books help you get better results. Dig into these books and find out how willpower works and motivate yourself not to fall back to old ways.